Lonely girls

In this time and age women are suppose to be self confident, beautiful and strong. We do not need men in our life! As single women we gossip about how we will never do this and that when we get into the next relationship. Boost about our single life and how good it is. But lately I’ve wondered, is that what my friends really think? Are we as self confident as we want others to believe?

After an evening off good food, cocktails and a little bit of gossip me and my friends started talking about our resent love affairs. One had just gone through a bad break up so the conversation naturally went on about how her ex was horrible. Despite what you believe, as a good friend it is your duty to listen and agree that the ex is a terrible guy. Now it is my believe that you get the right to whine for some time after a break up. But then, you get over it. This was the point where she needed to get over it. For some reason the girls started talking about how she should go out party and find some hot guy to hook up with. I dislike that method very strongly.

If you are feeling bad you should not try and make yourself feel better by picking up a random guy, while drunk, and expect him to fix you. But that seems to be what most girls do. After watching all of your girlfriends get the “man of their dreams” and you seem to be the only one not getting any attention your standards seem to get lower. Then you find a guy that actually talks to you and calls you back and you’re quick to jump at the chance. Finally! You won’t be the only single women in the world.

Here is the problem with finding the man of your dreams when you’re lonely and feel like no one wants you. If the guy turns out to be an asshole you don’t have the confidence to get out of the relationship. He was after all your only choice. Now of course there might be some guys out there that will fix you up and all that, but that isn’t the point. The point is to stop being lonely and be awesome instead.
Instead of going out to find a new boyfriend or just find someone that will give you the time of day. Buy sexy lingerie, dress up nice and be beautiful for yourself. Go out with your friends not to look for a boyfriend but to have fun. So you won’t “settle” for an asshole because you’re just too damn hot to be with anything other than what you deserve.

Now lets say that you didn’t have the strength this time to be awesome. Lets say that you end up with an asshole. If you complain about your boyfriend to you girlfriends and tell them about how much of a jerk he is, that’s what they are going to think about your boyfriend. So when you feel that your girlfriends are being too harsh on the guy and come to the conclusion that they might just be jealous. You are most likely wrong. The things your girlfriends know about your relationship is what You tell them. So your either complaining about nothing to much Or your dating an asshole, it is not your girlfriends that need to get an attitude adjustment. So are you with the guy because you want to or are you afraid of being lonely again?

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About thuohgts

Studying at the University of Reykjavik. After spending way to much time on studying I often let my mind wander about silly things that I'd like to share.

Posted on November 27, 2011, in Relationships, Uncategorized and tagged , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.

  1. Wow! this is an amazing post. I was just talking to my friend about a neighbor who was in an abusive relationship. Being lonely stinks, and it leads people to make really bad decisions.

    Thank you for encouraging your friends to make better decisions.

    And yes, if you complain about your boyfriend all the time, don’t be surprised when your friends hate him!

  2. I would think that being in an abusive relationship is a whole ‘nother level of bad confidence. Thous kind off guys are masters in manipulation and have, for lack of a better word, “brain washed” their girlfriends.
    But I’d say that knowing yourself and loving yourself before going into a relationship is probably what has saved a lot of girls. But its often the girls that look like they have the most confidence that don’t have none at all.
    SO encouraging everyone is what I want since I have no idea who needs it and who doesn’t.

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